Do you know that you are where you are in life because you decided to be there? Whether you are aware of it or not, you are where you are because of the choices that you made. Life is really about choices and it is such a pity that most people do not realize how fundamental the choices that we make are to our lives. A single choice can impact a life for decades and decades to come. Everything in your life, be it your career, business, friendships, relationships or marriage, is a reflection of the choices you have made. Question is, if we have so much power in regard to the choices that we make, then why is it that the majority seem to live a life that is void of meaning?
We have all heard the phrase that states, ‘Knowledge is power’. A lot of people know it but very few seem to be living it. Knowledge to most people is limited to the education they received in their scholarly studies. The problem is not being educated, the problem is they are educated just enough to believe what they have been taught and not educated enough to question what they have been taught. Many people know what is required to make a living but very few understand how to make most out of life. In as much as what we are taught in school is important, the ultimate teacher is life and experience. Many people are oblivious to the fact that they are where they are simply because they decided to be there. Worse still, many are not even aware that the power to change their lives or to do things differently lies solely with them.
The law of control is widely recognized as the ‘locus of control’. You either have internal locus of control or external locus of control. This simply means that you either feel that you are in charge of your own life (internal locus of control) or you feel that your life is controlled by people, circumstances or events (external locus of control). Many people identify with the latter. Many people do not give much thought to the meaning of life, partly because society has made a list of rules and regulations to be followed which most accept without question. Society has turned most into obedient followers with no sense of soulful purpose hence the reason why so many people seem to be living on auto pilot. Many feel that that’s just the way life goes and seldom do anything about it. Most people are where they are because they have decided to settle for whatever it is that life has given them.
The other reason why the majority seem to get the least out of life is because they have refused to take responsibility for the choices they have made. Many have resorted to blaming the poor circumstances of their lives on their jobs, their meager salaries, the government, their parents, their spouses…the list goes on and on. These people feel that they are where they are because of something or a situation other than themselves. They have refused to be true to themselves by holding themselves accountable. They have chosen to have a victim mentality and it is this kind of mindset that has restricted them to the comfort zone. If you belong to this group, I would like to challenge you to be true to yourself and accept responsibility for the decisions you have made, this is the point at which your life will begin to change. True maturity only comes when you finally realize that no one is coming to the rescue. Your life is like an action movie where there is a victim who is usually rescued by a hero. The only difference is that in the real life case scenario, the victim and the hero are one and the same person. You are the victim and you are your hero! This means that you are the only person who can get yourself out of the mess you are in.
No one can go back to the past and make a brand new start, we can only see it, understand it, learn from it and most importantly decide to make a new beginning. If you do not like your job, get another one or start your own business, if you are unhappy in your relationship break it off and move on, if you feel like the friendships that you have are not adding value or that you have outgrown your friends then get new ones, it really is that simple. What I am saying is that you have the power at any point in time to decide that this is not how your story ends. If you do not like how things are then change them, you are not a tree!
We have been gifted with the power of choice in our actions, thoughts and words. Once we realize this, we become empowered to make better choices. The quality of our lives will improve or deteriorate depending on which direction we go with our choices. We design our lives through the power of our choice. Use your power wisely!